Getting your kids to enjoy nature

On a hike with my kids there can be a lot of complaining; as well as tears, whining and maybe some moaning added in for good measure.

Sometimes I wonder why I bother; what kind of evil mother am I to make my kids trudge through the woods, despite the bugs and the hot sun and the….gasp, snakes!!!

Here’s why: North American children now spend an hour or less outside each day. Researchers have linked this so-called “nature deficit” to rising trends of obesity, mental health issues and attention deficit disorders. Children who lack time in nature tend to have difficulty paying attention, and often struggle to interact well with their peers. In contrast, kids who spend a lot of time outdoors score higher on academic tests and demonstrate better emotional regulation.

As I child I spent quite a bit of time in the outdoors. My parents enjoyed camping, and we had a rustic family cottage where we spent many weeks in the woods and on the lake. Although we lived in Suburbia, we were a short distance from a beautiful urban park and the Toronto Zoo was just down the road. I went to “Zoo Camp,” and learned all about conservation and sustainability.

Although I inherited my parents’ love of the outdoors, I wouldn’t say that I’ve ever found it easy to be in the wilderness. I’m terrified of bears, I don’t like all the bugs, and I’d much rather curl up on the couch with a good book. But once I brave it all and get outside, I can feel the tension releasing from my shoulders. As a child I felt stronger, more focused and less anxious after spending time outside and I still notice those benefits in my adult life.

And so I have persevered with my own children, making as much effort as possible to connect our daily lives to the rhythms of nature. We’re not out in the wilderness on a daily basis, but we’re connecting to the outdoors in so many simple ways. 

Gardening

As suburbanites, gardening can be a fabulous way to introduce your child to nature without ever leaving your backyard. We tend to focus on vegetable gardening, as I love teaching my children where our food comes from – there’s nothing more satisfying than eating something you have planted and tended to over the course of the summer. And to let you in on a little secret – kids will eat their vegetables if they get to pick them right off the bush or out of the ground. Serve them veggies on a plate for dinner? Forget about it!!

Neighbourhood walks

Nature is all around us! You don’t have to go far to find bugs, a birds nest, sticks or rocks. Kids LOVE “natural” toys, and they’ll find anything at the nearby park to play with (just maybe avoid the garbage!) We’re lucky to back onto a ravine, where we can find wild raspberries and apples, and observe busy beavers, foxes and bunny rabbits. 

If it feels impossible to get your kids out on a walk, try to entice them with games or songs. A scavenger hunt is great for the summer. In the winter we do “flashlight” walks – they bring their flashlights or glow sticks out and we explore the dark.

Camping

OK, OK, camping is not really easy. But it definitely doesn’t have to be super hard! If you want to ease into things, consider borrowing or renting a tent trailer so that you’re not directly on the ground in a tent. Another great option is a rustic cabin – I’ve always preferred having four walls and a roof (as well as a bathroom,) but I still want my kids to get away from electronics. We go to a cottage each summer where the Wifi totally sucks, but the lake is divine.

I found camping really easy when my kids were tiny. It feels a bit more difficult now that they’re at the complaining age (alright confession…it’s me complaining!! I’m older and less enamoured sleeping on a blow up mattress.) We have our girls participate in Girl Guides, where we both get the chance to go camping at least once a year. Some day we might find energy to take the whole family on a canoe portage trip – I’ll keep you posted on that one.

Nature Camp or Forest School

There are SO many great options out there for outdoor summer camps and even forest schools. Our daughter is currently in her first summer of nature camp, and she is in love – she spends her days climbing trees, whittling with knives, making fires, and rolling in dirt. The stories she comes home with are amazing for dinner table conversation.

Many families are choosing alternative schools, where there is a much greater focus on outdoor education. We aren’t at that stage yet, but it’s certainly a dream of mine to have my kids in forest school one day per week.

When looking to build up the time that your children spend in the outdoors, remember that every little bit counts – and children will always seek it out, wherever you go. If you take them to that new fancy splash pad, they’ll spend their time in the muddy part where the water drains over a rocky bed. Children are both fascinated and soothed by nature, and so are adults when we give ourselves the time! Because of this sense of relaxation, I’ve always find that parenting is way easier in the outdoors.

Except maybe when you’re hiking up that mountain – I can’t guarantee there won’t be a lot of whining along the way.

This post is part of The Whole Family Happiness Project, in partnership with Social Currents and the Low Carbon Economy Narrative Initiative. The Whole Family Happiness Project poses the question, “What is the connection between our individual purpose, our family happiness, and the happiness of the world around us?”

To learn more or get involved, visit Whole Family Happiness on Facebook. #wholefamilyhappiness

Taking your Canada Day weekend down a notch

Canada Day is just days away and here in the capital there are countless exciting things to do to celebrate Canada 150.

We’ve talked a lot about the things you can do and the places you can go, but today I’m going to talk about the other option – the “do less” option.

I find it really hard sometimes not to want to do ALL THE THINGS - o create as many beautiful memories as possible, and to  ensure that my kids are getting to do the fun things that all the other kids are “obviously” doing (based on what Facebook is telling me, anyway).

But here’s the thing I also know – my kids don’t like to be GO GO GO, and neither do my husband and I. In fact, I’d bet there are many of us who are much happier staying home more often than not.

So this Canada Day I’m embracing the “do less stuff” idea. Here are 5 ways that YOU can do less this long weekend, while still embracing the spirit of the holiday.

1)   Check out the Ottawa Public Library


Take a family trip to the library and stock up on books about Canada. The library’s website lists all the different kinds of books you can find. You can browse the stacks or reserve some ahead of time.  

Then cuddle up on the coach and talk about the history of our country and the history of the indigenous people who have been here much longer than 150 years.

2)   Canadian TV and movie marathon
 

There is a long standing tradition for Canada Day in the capital - it must rain and be kind of miserable. Be prepared to spend the day inside in full Canada Day spirit by watching some classic Canadian TV and movies.

Here are a few ideas:

This is my favourite Heritage Minute ever.

And my favourite CFB movie.

Do you have any favourites from childhood? Leave a comment so we can go check them out too!
 

3)   Head to the lake

My favourite long weekend activity is to head out of town and away from the crowds. We’re lucky because we have a cottage to go to, but even if you don’t, you can grab a day pass at many of the provincial campgrounds.  Spend time swimming at one of the park’s beaches, or put the word out – does someone in your circle of friends have a cottage or trailer you could visit?  A lot of trailer parks have fun Canada Day celebrations!

4)   Informal potluck

Invite some friends over, buy some sparklers, pick up some pre-made Canada Day themed cupcakes or cookies at the store and just chill. No big decorations, no heading down to the fireworks, no elaborate crafts and need to cook and bake - just enjoy each other’s company.

A bonus activity if you have a projector on hand is to set up an outdoor movie once it gets dark – you just need a white sheet and a flat surface for projection.

5)   Just go with the flow

This can be especially hard for people who like to plan ahead of time, but I like to leave long weekends unplanned and then see what we want to do. Maybe go for a walk, go out for ice cream, chat with your neighbours, go geocaching, or visit a local park. The less pressure you put on a day, the more amazing it can turn out to be.

Whether you go big or you go small, I hope you have a fabulous long weekend. The Kids in the Capital team will be hitting all options, with one going downtown, one leaving town and one chilling at home.

We can’t wait to hear what you’ll be up to!

This post is part of The Whole Family Happiness Project, in partnership with Social Currents and the Low Carbon Economy Narrative Initiative. The Whole Family Happiness Project poses the question, “What is the connection between our individual purpose, our family happiness, and the happiness of the world around us?”

To learn more or get involved, visit Whole Family Happiness on Facebook. #wholefamilyhappiness

 

10 things to do with kids in Ottawa this summer

Summer vacation is rolling out the welcome mat for kids all across the Nation’s Capital. And if your kids are like mine, then they are ready to run off some energy and have some fun! Every summer my family and I make a “bucket list” of things we must see and do as a family to make summer awesome! This year our list is a little longer than 10, but here are our top 10 things to do as a family in Ottawa this summer:

1) Visit the new Canada-themed park at Mooney’s Bay

If you haven’t been to the new Canada-themed park at Mooney’s Bay with the family yet, pack a picnic lunch and plan a day or even a few hours to take in the play structures, slides and swings that each represent a different province or territory. The park is located next to Mooney’s Bay Beach—a great spot to cool off on a hot summer’s day!

2) Check out the new Canada Goose Arctic Gallery at the Canadian Museum of Nature

The  Arctic Gallery at the Canadian Museum of Nature just opened June 21st and is filled with interactive activities, games, interesting facts and educational fun for the entire family. This new permanent gallery is full of unique ways to celebrate Canada's Arctic!

3) See the Northern Lights Sound and Light bilingual show on Parliament Hill

The Sounds and Lights show is always impressive, but with Canada 150 it’s a must-see summer event this year! Grab some snacks and a picnic blanket and head down to Parliament Hill in the late evening from July 11th to September 16th to enjoy Northern Lights, a show about the foundations of our nation and so much more. For tips on how to make the evening a memorable one, check out our tips here.

4) Check out MosaiCanada 150

MosaiCanada 150 is a FREE horticultural event featuring paintings, sculptures, artistic works, as well as 40 impressive horticulture arrangements (some larger than life!). MosaiCanada 150 is held at Jacques-Cartier Park in Gatineau from June 30th to October 15th and is open from 10 a.m. to 7 p.m. daily. This unique horticultural event is a part of the ongoing activities celebrating Canada 150.

5)  Watch an outdoor movie

Every year we try to watch an outdoor movie and this year we not only plan on returning to the Port Elmsley Drive-In, but also grabbing a lawn chair and going to one of the more urban outdoor movies. Capital Pop-Up Cinema runs local outdoor movies that look like a lot of fun– here’s their schedule: https://www.capitalpopupcinema.com/2016-schedule.

6) Be wowed by La Machine at the end of July

I keep seeing the La Machine event pop up in my Facebook newsfeed and every time I see it, I can’t get over how impressive it looks. From July 27 to the 30th these big machines – including the dragon, LongMa, which according to the event website, stands 12 metres high, 5 metres high and weighs 45 tons, will be roaming the downtown streets of Ottawa. This incredible weekend is a part of the ongoing celebrations for Canada 150.

7) Visit a summer fair

Cotton candy, demolition derbies, carousels, concerts, live entertainment, and more, Ottawa offers many local summer fairs including these:
July 14-16: Almonte Fair 
July 28-30: Beachburg Fair
August 10-13: Navan Fair
August 17-20: Arnprior Fair
August 18-27: The Capital Fair 
August 25-27: Chesterville Fair 
September 7-10: Russell Fair 
September 14-17: Richmond Fair 
September 21-24: Carp Fair 
September 28-October 1: Metcalfe Fair 

8) Pretend we’re pirates at Pirate Adventures Ottawa

If you have ever wanted to bring out your inner Jack Sparrow or Jake the Neverland Pirate then this 75-minute interactive pirate-theatre cruise may be for you! Located at Mooney’s Bay this pirate ship adventure includes costumes, face painting, treasure maps, and much more!

9) Actually make it through the Mile Maze at Saunders Farm

Jumping pillows, an amazing play structure, and of courses mazes! Saunders Farm is a lot of fun and one of these days I WILL make it through the mile maze without having to ask complete strangers if they can help me find my way out. ;)

10) Connect with nature at Eco-Odysee

Beautiful scenery, water maze adventures, exploring and puzzle solving – Eco Odysee in the Outaouais is a great way to spend a summer’s day outside and in nature.

So, what’s on your must-do summer list this year? Share by leaving a comment! Happy Summer

Living Life With Intention

Spending summers with my kids

Both my parents are PhDs. This set many expectations in my life. - not in the “my parents always really wanted me to follow in their footsteps” kind of way, but in a “when you complete high school you go to University” kind of way. And so I did go to University, despite actively wishing I could get out of traditional learning environments from the earliest days of elementary school.

I have incredibly supportive parents who have never tried to push me to be someone I’m not and yet I held a deep-seated belief that life had ONE path  - and to be successful, I had to take that path.

School – post secondary – good job/career with a solid plan to move up the ladder – house and car – marriage – kids – retire – relax.

That’s the path – the one that most people follow. You can be many things on this path, but there are very few options for detours in order to arrive at “success."

I jumped off and back on the path for years - knowing I wanted something different (jump off); but wanting to be successful (jump on); but hating how I felt (jump off); but wanting to prove I was smart and capable and grown up (jump on); and on it went.

I finally realized that “the path” was not my destiny and I jumped off permanently. I realized that I could create my own path and my own definition of success. Accepting that was the best and most empowering decision of my life.

Jumping off has landed me where I am today, as a business coach supporting small business owners (mostly women, often moms) in figuring out how to create their own paths as well. My own journey in helping others find their paths has clarified something for me – most people do not plan to live their lives intentionally.

Live life with intention

Running a workshop on goal setting for small business owners

When was the last time you stopped and thought about your life - what you have, where you’re doing, what you’re trying to achieve, and why you have or desire it all?

What do you hope will be the rewards for all that you’re doing in life? How will you enjoy it?

Many of the people that I talk to don’t have much of a real plan or a real understanding of what they’re working so hard for.

They’re working towards the next big promotion, the nicer car and the bigger house out of habit rather than because they truly want it. I believe more people need to stop, breathe, and take the time to choose.

Don’t get bogged down in shoulds

Choosing sounds easy in theory, but I know that it’s not. There are so many things that impact what we think we should want.

I suggest that you need to really think through what you want in life and why. As you do this you’re going to hear all kinds of voices in your head, coming from a lifetime of messages from family, friends, and society at large:

You SHOULD have a career if you’re going to be a strong independent woman.”

“You SHOULD stay home if you’re a caring and loving mom.”

“You SHOULD have a career that you love that brings in enough money for your kids to take all the activities they want, and be playing competitive level sports and still have time to throw amazing birthday parties and bake cakes that are beautiful enough to be on Cake Boss.”


Wow, those shoulds create a lot of pressure!  And they’re a LOT of work.

If you’re going to work really hard for something, make sure it’s for something YOU want, not something you think society or the people around you expect of you.
 

What do you want?

If you haven’t taken the time to figure out what it is that you DO want… spend some time thinking about it. If you’re on the right track – AMAZING, keep doing that!

If you realize you aren’t entirely sure what you want or what you’re working so hard for… dig a bit deeper.  If you could have more of only one thing – what would it be?

Painting at the inDetail Art Retreat


More time?

More creativity?

More rest?

More experiences?

More travel?

More beautiful things?

More pride in what you do?

If you realize you’re working really hard for someone else’s dreams… you need to get back on track. Make your own dreams!

My life by intention is about time more than anything else.

I have time with my kids – I work during my kids’ school hours and am home with them at least 7-8 weeks a year.

I have time for myself – I go away with my friends, I take time for art classes, I say no to being with people all the time.

We have less money than we could. If I had stayed on my career path over the last 10 years we would have had a lot more family income. Ditto if I had chosen to work more hours in my business. Instead, I chose to prioritize things differently.

My dream for my kids is that they can create success on their own terms – that there isn’t just one path in front of them that says “this is the way to a good life” – that there are a multitude of options. Truly, I want that for you, too; to see more people choose their life path and success by intention instead of by accident.

I won’t pretend my journey has been all easy or that my life is now perfect. But I love that I am making choices for ME.

I challenge you to consider all of this for yourself… do you know where you’re heading, and more importantly, why? Are you happy with it?

Create an intention and go for it (and share it with me in the comments!)

This post is part of The Whole Family Happiness Project, in partnership with Social Currents and the Low Carbon Economy Narrative Initiative. The Whole Family Happiness Project poses the question, “What is the connection between our individual purpose, our family happiness, and the happiness of the world around us?”

To learn more or get involved, visit Whole Family Happiness on Facebook. #wholefamilyhappiness

The breakfast sandwich I have been missing my whole life

I recently participated in my first Brownie camp...WOW. What an eye opener! So much planning and hard work goes into those weekends from super dedicated volunteers. I really commend all the leaders with Girl Guides of Canada for their awesomeness.

One part of the planning for camp is the food - having enough food for a giant pack of hungry kids. The morning we left we realized we might be running short on breakfast foods (one box of Cheerios was not going to cut it).

breakfast sandwich.jpeg

Our Brown Owl then grabbed a bag of white bread and instructed us to slather on some applesauce and cinnamon and fry it on the stove.

WAIT, WHAT?

Please excuse the giant stack of recipe books in the background

How have I been missing this food all my life? This is THE best camp and cottage food, and also makes the perfect breakfast sandwich for when you're on the run. It tastes pretty much like apple pie, and was a huge hit with the girls.

What you'll need:

- 2 slices of white bread (I'm sure whole wheat would be OK, but white has a certain "squishiness" to it)
- butter
- applesauce
- cinnamon

Butter both slices of bread, just like when you're making grilled cheese. Slather on some applesauce (how thick you want it is your choice!) - we used Farm Boy's unsweetened natural applesauce. This is what my applesauce looks like when I do homemade, so it's my fave. (NOTE: the pic below is showing you how much applesauce I put on…make sure to place the second slice of bread on top. Just like a grilled cheese!)

Finally sprinkle on the cinnamon and throw the whole sandwich on the grill, fire or stovetop. Cook until golden brown.

They were gobbled up!!!

What's your go-to breakfast after a night in a tent or at the cottage?