A family night out at the Wesley Clover Parks Drive-In Theatre

KITC would like to welcome back, guest blogger, Stephen Johnson. Stephen Johnson is an Ottawa writer who loves to write about family travel.  During the summer, when there isn’t a pandemic, you will most likely find him and his family at a local fair or festival.  During the winter, a beach in Mexico is a likely bet.


I have not been to a drive-in movie since 1990. At the time, I was eighteen years old. We were seven teenagers stuffed into a car that fit four (a few may have been crammed in the trunk!).

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Fast forward thirty years, drive-ins are making a comeback during this time of social distancing. Our family learned there was a drive-in taking place at Wesley Clover Parks in Ottawa’s west end and couldn’t wait to see what our son thought of this unique experience! 

This time, our family of three, easily fit in our vehicle which comfortably seats five. There was no need to hide anyone under car seats or next to the spare tire. 

I have to admit, I was somewhat nervous to go to the drive-in. Like most Ottawa families, for the past three months, our family excursions consisted of taking a walk or bike ride through our local park. 

Once we arrived on-site my fears were quickly allayed. All staff were wearing face masks and social distancing was maintained at all times. There was plenty of space between vehicles and people could even order concessions online via their smartphone. 

A family night out at the Wesley Clover Parks Drive-In Theatre

We had a few minutes to spare before the movie started so our son, David, and I walked around the site while maintaining our social distance from others. It felt like people were coming out of their cocoons. Hatchbacks and truck flatbeds were turned into viewing areas. We even saw one family bring a mattress for the young ones in case their dozy eyes could not last for the entire movie. 

The night we visited, Thor: The Dark World was on the bill. I am usually not a superhero fan but enjoyed the escapism of the film. The fact that it was a perfect summer night added to the ambiance. The night went by quickly but was definitely memorable.

A family night out at the Wesley Clover Parks Drive-In Theatre

Our motto this summer will be to keep it local. The drive-in experience at Wesley Clover Parks was the perfect place to start. 

As one can expect,  there are a few restrictions in place during this time of COVID-19.  People are asked to not bring in any outside food or drink other than sealed bottled water.  It is okay to sit in the hatchback or flatbed of your vehicle. Only one person per vehicle is allowed to go to the bathroom at a time with the exception of young kids who can be accompanied by one adult.  There are outdoor portapotties on-site with very good hand-washing facilities.  

Our family found all the measures to be reasonable and they did not impede our enjoyment of the event.  We understood they were for our safety and the safety of all participants.  

Films are being offered that will appeal to adults and children. Check the bill ahead of time to make sure the film and screening time are age-appropriate. All ticket sales are done online. For more information, visit, www.thedriveinottawa.ca

Pandemic Summer Bucket List

This summer is like no other. All of my kids camps have been cancelled, and we don’t have the same childcare we normally would have. I’m going to need to be strategic about our summer, especially if I want to avoid fighting, whining and complaining. I’ve come up with a list of activities that you could do, keeping in mind that some museums and other venues will re-open for visitors this summer. If that’s the case and you feel comfortable visiting certain places, don’t forget to check out our 50 Things to do With Kids in Ottawa post for more ideas.

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Let the summer fun begin!

TD Summer Reading Club

Water Toys for Keeping Cool

Drive-through zoo or online zoo experience

Online National Gallery experience

Count Birds for a Bird census

Decorating bikes

Make your own ice cream

Repaint/decorate the kids room

Visit the Beach

Camp in the backyard

Biking on the Parkway

Go for a hike

Plan weekly learning activities

Find a fun online summer camp (some of your fave summer camps are offering an online version!)

Do a tour of the best splash pads

A water maze with Eco Odyssey

Geo Caching!

Strawberry Picking

Visit Petrie Island

Go for an ice cream crawl (see West end and East end ideas)

Take fun photos around our city (see our Scavenger Hunt ideas from last year!)

Bake some bread

Make cards for seniors

Find a waterfall

Make chalk art on your driveway and street for the neighbours

Self-guided scavenger hunts

Build something or start a new craft (e.g. cross-stitch)

Garden experiments

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Camping close to home

As we all find ways to keep the kids entertained closer to home this summer (all my kids were slated to head out to sleep away camp for two weeks next weekend) we’re trying to be creative and think outside of our usual activities.

Camping close to home

Backyard camping!

Twins setting up a tent in the backyard

Twins setting up a tent in the backyard

My twins (11) came up with a great plan last week that reminded me of something my older son used to do with friends all the time - a backyard camp out!

The twins set up the tent with almost no help (word of warning, a few years ago the first time my kids tried to set up a tent alone there was a tent pole incident that required stitches - just be careful the first time they attempt to do this on their own) and got to stretch some of their independence and logic skills, which sounds like homeschooling to me!

Decorate and make it feel cozy

Twins got the main structure of the tent set up

Twins got the main structure of the tent set up

They then spent a long time decorating the tent (my daughter strung up LED lights inside) and making sure it had all the comforts of home. There were blankets, stuffies and books, and my son even found an extension cord so they could bring their devices outside to watch some Youtube and listen to music as they fell asleep (something I thought was fine after all the time they spent working on setting up their outdoor quarters.)

Camp “fire”

If you’re doing a camp out with your kids or helping them, a real (or fake) campfire can be a fun option. Depending on where you live, bylaw may allow you to have a fire in the backyard - fire tables are super popular these days too! Roast marshmallows and make some s’mores, and then organize a good ol’ fashioned sing along. If fire is a no-go, you can still share some tasty snacks around a make believe fire pit. Most people remember some of their Guiding or Scouting days, or just Google a few songs to sing together. If you’re super musically inclined, bring your instruments outside as well!

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My kids spent a couple of nights out there and I expect they will repeat this several times over the course of the summer.

So if you have some camping equipment sitting around, let the kids practice figuring out how to set up their campground on their own, see what they come up with in terms of decorating and camping activities and then you can decide if you’re ready to have them sleep out there overnight on their own. For older kids you can leave a back door unlocked (and a light on!) in case there are any problems overnight. Walkie Talkies are also great so that they can reach you if they need you. An option for younger kids is to let them fall asleep and then move them inside, sleeping in a room close to the backyard with the windows open so you can hear them (I did this when the kids were younger), you can camp out there with them, or pitch the tent in the living room or basement. All the ways can be be a fun activity for the kids as we stay closer to home this summer!

Edited to add: please use your personal judgement on when is a safe age to allow your kids to camp out in the backyard, with or without you joining them.




The Importance of Having a Legal Will

When was the last time you updated your Will? Do you even have a Will? Did you know that without a Will, if you and your child’s other parent were to die, who they would live with is uncertain?

I wanted to learn more about the importance of having a Will and if having one made with a lawyer was important or just something some people do. To get the answers I wanted, I spoke with Vinayak Ethiraju from Ottawa law firm, Fresh Legal.

I will start by saying this – prior to writing this blog post, I thought printing a Will kit off the Internet, filling in the blanks and safely filing it in a drawer was all I needed to do to make sure my child and my assets were covered should my husband I pass away. Suffice to say, I was wrong and my husband and I have since booked a call to have a written Legal Will made.

The importance of having a legal will

Why it’s important to have a Will

Having a Will provides certainty. When you pass away, you want certainty of knowing how your estate is going to be distributed; who’s in charge of your estate and also, depending on your current life situation, that your kids, other assets, funeral arrangements, and religious beliefs are addressed in accordance to what you want and believe in.

If you die without a Will, the law says that you have died “intestate,” which means that you left no instructions as to how your property is to be divided and distributed and so a provincial act will govern how your property will be distributed to your surviving relatives. If you are married, this will probably mean a spouse gets everything. If a spouse and kids are left behind then your estate would generally be divided between them. Most people are okay with that, but you may still want specific arrangements for say a godchild or special needs sibling, etc. Having a Will makes sure you’re taking care of all those people the best way you can – with certainty.

What happens if parents die and children are left behind – and there’s no Will?

When one parent dies and the parents are married or separated, the surviving child(ren) go to the surviving parent, unless there is just cause as to why this should not happen. If both parents die and kids are left without a Will stating who they will live with, then it is considered a live issue. A Will can assign a person(s) to be guardian(s) of children as well as assign a guardian of their property. A Will makes it certain of who is responsible otherwise it is up to the state to figure that out and that can be messy and put children in what is already an awful situation.

When deciding on who children should live with and who should manage their property, make sure you discuss it with your spouse. As well, make sure whoever is assigned to manage the property for the children is someone you trust. Deciding this and putting it into a Will offers peace of mind for all involved parties.

How often should I review my will? 

Vinayak recommends having a Will reviewed every two to three years, but other events can also trigger a Will to be void or warrant a change. For example, if you have a Will made before a marriage and then get married – your Will becomes void. Your Will should also be reviewed with every child. As well, a Will should be altered upon a separation or divorce. Unlike when you get married, a Will is not void upon separation or divorce. You always want to make sure your Will reflects your current wishes.

As well, if you are in a common-law relationship it is a good idea to have a Will if you want your common-law partner to inherit part of your assets, otherwise, they will likely get nothing – similar to how family law works.

How easy is it to change a Will?

Changing a Will is pretty straightforward. Depending on the changes sometimes a draft document with amendments (a codicil) can be made and other times the entire Will is redone to avoid multiple documents. 

Do I need to see the same lawyer who first drafted the Will when I need changes?

No, you can take your Will to any lawyer, but it may be easier to use the same lawyer since they will have the original on file. It may also cost less.

What are the benefits of having a Will made using a lawyer versus a Will kit?

Making a Will without using a lawyer will cost you far more in the long run. Most people who make a Will themselves do it wrong. Lawyers go to law school for a reason – they know the law! And lawyers also add an extra layer of protection in terms of legal capacity.

Wills are often challenged on a person’s capacity to make the choices they made, especially if someone doesn’t like something you did in your will. If a lawyer drafts the Will then there are multiple layers of protection to prove capacity, including an intake sheet, the lawyer asking the person to set out assets, and typically within the initial phone call, a lawyer can make sure a person has the capacity to assign assets, assign the powers of attorney, etc.

If a Will made with a lawyer is ever challenged, a lawyer will have notes to help in establishing your capacity. Remember, a lawyer should have no vested interest in your estate compared to a friend or family member who would.

If you do your Will wrong and your Will is not enforceable in that people can’t do anything with it, then all that effort is for nothing. If it causes more problems than it solves, you are leaving the mess of dealing with your assets and debts, and possibly your children, up to your surviving family to wade through.

You need someone objective to give you honest answers and challenge assumptions – a lawyer can do that! 

What is a Power of Attorney and why is having one important? 

There are two types of Power of Attorney:

For personal care – i.e., helps make health care decisions should you be incapable of making the decisions yourself i.e., you are in a coma. This person would take over and make decisions for you.

For property – to manage your assets. Again, if you were incapable, someone with Power of Attorney for Property will manage finances, pay your bills, etc. 

Your Power of Attorney has significant power. Make sure you choose someone you trust and knows your wishes, such as a close family member. You want to select someone you know will follow your wishes, and not abuse their power – no matter what.

If you do not have a Power of Attorney for Personal Care then the decisions can be made by certain family members listed in a provincial act called the Health Care Consent Act. In some cases, a provincial body called the Office of the Public Guardian and Trustee can become involved to deal with your personal care decisions and to manage your finances. This process can be far more frustrating and less predictable for you and your family members.

When you have a legal Will made, you can also ask your lawyer to prepare Powers of Attorney in separate documents as a part of your estate planning.

Creating a Will can be difficult, but Vinayak’s personable, friendly and ability to explain legal terms in a way I could understand gave me reassurance that having a Legal Will is not only important, but it’s also necessary!

If you want to learn more or are ready to get a Will, contact Vinayak. He’s currently offering virtual appointments and is available by phone 613-627-4800 or email vinayak@freshlegal.ca

Bringing joy to isolated Ottawa-area seniors during the pandemic

Are you looking for something meaningful to do with the kids during the pandemic?

Kids in the Capital has partnered with Tea and Toast and Seniors Solution to organize an opportunity for kids and families to make the difference in the day of some seniors! Senior Solution has been doing this work since the beginning of the pandemic (you can check out all the hard work and many of the items in the Facebook group called Seniors in Isolation founder Debbie started to organize efforts) and we are excited to expand the project and get even more seniors and residences receiving little gifts of joy.

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Here’s the plan - we’re going to be collecting cards and artwork for seniors at several pick up spots throughout the city, and then Tea and Toast and Seniors Solution will distribute it to the homes that they work with on a regular basis to make sure that all of the wonderful creations are getting in to the right hands!

Whether the cards, art and letters are from the youngest of kids, your artistic middle schooler, or teens and adults who just want to make a difference - you’re going to be a ray of sunlight for the seniors who aren’t able to see any of their loved ones right now.

How to take part:

Get drawing, writing and creating! We will be doing our first drop offs next week so the sooner we get some creations to share - the better.

We are working with stores in the city to be drop off points and so far have two stores you can drop your creations off (check their Facebook pages and web sites for store hours):

Tag Along Toys - 1500 Bank Street

Kiddie Kobbler Stittsville/Kanata - 5685 Hazeldean Rd

All About Kids - 5369 Canotek Road, Unit 8 (East end)

If neither of the stores listed above work for you, fill out the following google form to let us know which end of town you’re in and we will get back to you with some other drop off locations.

Who are we:

Kids in the Capital is always here to look for things for families and kids to do in the National Capital Region.

Tea and Toast provides a compassionate, convenient, credible, customized and complimentary local service for families and individuals looking for a retirement residence that fits their unique needs and budget. Our senior living advisors act as “brokers” in finding the best place for this next stage of life.

Seniors Solution provides the following services: Personal care (PSW), Companionship in Long Term Care, Retirement homes or in their own homes.  They also offer trusted transportation to medical appointments and errands.