Birthday parties at the Farm

by Brie The excitement of our kids getting older is often tempered by the horror of having to plan another birthday party. Themes? Games? Activities? What to do.

Here's an idea.

We went to a great birthday party at the Canada Agricultural Museum this past summer. I was so impressed with the entire party. The kids had a great time and were kept busy from the moment they arrived. It would be a great location for birthday parties in the colder months, thanks to the larger indoor party room.

Want to know what we did? Since we were the first guests to arrive the kids ran around the party room and played some of the games set up, like this one where you throw the bean bag through the animals mouths.

While we waited for the other kids to arrive, my two coloured and decorated their party hats. These hats were a big hit and the girl was still wearing hers when we left the party and headed home.

With the guests all there the party leader taught the kids how to make ice cream and let them help by stirring and pouring the ingredients. When all the ingredients were mixed together the ice cream maker was turned on and we headed off for a guided tour of the farm.

The first stop was the cow barn. This picture may not look like much but it was proceeded by some very exciting back-end activity from the cows. There was the expected pointing and yelling from intrigued 3 and 4 year olds.

The tour of the barn took some time what with the kids saying hi by name to every cow we passed. A real highlight of the tour was that the kids all got to take turns brushing and petting a calf. The calf was very good natured about it all.

And just in case the kids ever need to know how to milk a cow, they had a chance to practice on this display. 

After we left the cows we toured the rest of the farm, making sure to say hi to all the animals. The kids were pretty tired by the time we made it back to the party room, but they quickly perked up with cake and yummy homemade ice cream.

Brie is the mom of a 4 year old daughter “the girl” and 2 old son “the boy”. You can read her blog at Capital Mom.

Fair Trade and Kids

by Judy Fair Trade may seem like a large, difficult topic to explain to kids, but it really isn’t. We have done presentations for groups of children as young as grade one all the way to university aged young adults, to explain what Fair Trade is and how we can get involved in Canada. Each year we get invited to new school groups to talk about Fair Trade as global issues become more and more a part of the school curriculum.

Inequitable relationships, women’s rights, global poverty--they are large scary topics for some kids, so we always scale it down to the basics, especially for the little kids. Sometimes we will focus on a specific industry, like chocolate. We chose this example, mainly because most of the kids have eaten a chocolate bar, and it is something for them to relate to, regardless of their age. There is also a great YouTube channel from one of our chocolate companies that have videos that you can watch with your kids.

Other times we talk about some of the principles of Fair Trade and break them down. This is a great way to talk about Fair Trade with your kids, as you can focus on  multiple principles if the kids are really engaged, or move on if they are having a hard time understanding it.  Don’t try to tackle all of these things at once.  Some are more suited to younger  or older ages, so focus on the topics most suited to your kids.  We always find at presentations and in the store, if kids aren’t engaged or are overwhelmed they won’t carry the message with them.  Pick one or two you feel passionate about or they feel passionate about and it take from there.  

Some of the principles of Fair Trade for talking to kids:

- Creating jobs for people who aren’t usually hired - Caring for the environment - Capacity building - Paying a fair price - Giving women & girls the same opportunities as men & boys - Building sustainable long-term relationships - Supporting good working conditions

Taking a closer look at each principle we can see how to introduce the topic to our kids.When talking about creating jobs for people who aren’t usually hired, it gives us a chance to talk about the realities in other countries. Many people with disabilities, whether they are physical, mental or emotional, often cannot go to school, and have a hard time getting a job. For example, one of the groups that our store deals with specifically works with artisans affected by Leprosy to help them create products, earn money, and find stable housing.

Most kids know how to care for the environment, including recycling and composting with municipal programs. Fair Traders think about the environment a lot when making products. This includes tree planting programs, using recycled materials, and using responsible farming methods. In some countries, plants that clog the rivers and cause the water ways to die, are picked and used for making unique handmade paper.  We recently had a young customer who asked her mom to buy the handmade chopsticks, because she thought it was bad for the trees to use and throwaway the ones from the take out.  She was showing her awareness at a level neither her mom nor I had thought of.  

Explaining capacity building to kids is a little more complicated, as it is one of the harder concepts to explain.  Providing artisans with capacity building can be any range of things.  One of the most common ways this is done is to ensure that people are not only able to read, but are also financial literate.  Many producer groups teach their artisans how to make budgets, do monthly accounting and develop saving schemes.  Maybe you teach your children the value of saving their allowance, setting goals and learning to reach them.  While they have the opportunity to learn from you, many of the artisans are the first in their families to have these skills.  

It sounds pretty straightforward – paying a fair price.  In Canada we have minimum wage, to ensure that everyone can earn a base rate.  Many of the countries we get our products from don’t have any minimum wages.  The wages paid in the Fair Trade system ensure that people don’t just earn an income, but they earn one with dignity and respect.  The income is enough that artisans can pay for food, clothing, healthcare, housing and education for their children.  Fair Trade organizations like Ten Thousand Villages pay their artisans 50% when the order is placed and 50% before the item ever leaves the country.  This ensures that producers have the money to pay their bills and they aren’t affected if for any reason the product can’t be sold.  

For so many girls and young women living in Canada the thought that they may not be treated the same as their male counterparts is as foreign as a country on the other side of the world.  However, in many countries women and girls aren’t given the same opportunities.  Many girls aren’t sent to school, and many women have little influence on their own futures.  Fair Trade ensures that girls can go to school, and engages women in the local economies.  It empowers women by given them an income, which is most often reinvested back into their families, homes and communities.  Over 70% of the artisans producing items for Ten Thousand Villages are women.  Shova Baroi is a great example of how earning an as a woman changed her family.

Building long term relationships that are sustainable is a key part of Fair Trade.  It is the continued relationship that ensures steady income for the artisans.  It helps the artisans to grow their businesses.  Kids most likely understand the importance of long-term relationships as it applies to their friendships.  Who is their oldest friend? Do they learn more about them as time goes on? It is the same with Fair Trade, both sides of the relationship work together to ensure the artisans can grow and learn.  Ten Thousand Villages has been doing Fair Trade since 1946, and we have been working with some of our producer groups for decades.  

Supporting good working conditions is vital for Fair Trade.  It is vital that artisans work in safe and clean conditions with no child labour.  These artisans are the reason we are talking about Fair Trade and that organizations like Ten Thousand Villages are around.  Many of our artisans use natural materials, like plant based dyes, not only because they are more traditional and accessible, but better for them.  Our chocolate producers ensure that no child labour is used in the production.  

Many of these principles overlap with each other and there are themes to have discussions around.  We often have kids ask us questions in the store and we can ask questions back.  Could they imagine working and never going to school? Or not having a chance to play with their friends?

A lot of these discussion points can be found in a book from the Fair Trade Federation, called Think Fair Trade First.   It is one of our best tools when talking to kids.  

Ten Thousand Villages stores are staffed with volunteers who are here to tell the stories of our artisans and encourage more people to learn about Fair Trade.   We are always happy to answer questions.  

Judy Lincoln is an Ottawa mom of a two year old boy, the Manager at Ten Thousand Villages Ottawa and has been committed to Fair Trade for over a decade.  There are over 100 volunteers in Ottawa who share this commitment at 1174 Bank Street and 371 Richmond Road.  Follow Ten Thousand Villages on Twitter, Facebook or read their blog.

Question of the month #6: Halloween candy

Kids in the Capital is all about parents in Ottawa helping each other out by sharing tips and advice. Each month we ask a parenting question and we want to hear all the gems of advice you have to share. Just leave your answers in the comments! And if you have a question you’d like to see be a future question, leave it in the comments too! Question of the month #6: Halloween candy

A bag full of candy is one of the greatest prizes for a kid at the end of a night of Halloween trick-or-treating, but what then? What happens to all that candy?

When the girl was two and we didn't want her eating too much candy we traded her a video for her bag and she was thrilled. One set of parents we know switched out all the chocolate bars with bags of regular chips and boxes of raisins after leaving each house. Other friends have let their kids eat as much as they want on that first night. Last year the kids each got to pick one treat to eat after we got home, so I really can't blame her throwing up that night into my open hands on the fact she had pigged out on candy.

What do you do with your child's Halloween candy? Are they allowed a set amount on Halloween to eat? Do they get to gorge themselves? Do they hid it away and make it last until Christmas time?

Trick-or-Treating with a Halloween posse

 by Brie I love Halloween. I loved dressing up as a kid and, after checking that my costume fit over my parka, wandering the dark streets with friends in search of candy. Now I love watching my own kids dress up and wander the dark streets with friends in search of candy.

The girl was only two months old her first Halloween. Still, I dressed her up in a little leopard outfit and touted her to the door every time kids yelled trick-or-treat! They might not have been very excited to see a baby leopard, but I was excited to show her off.

 For her second Halloween we invited some friends to come trick-or-treating and unintentionally started my new favorite holiday tradition: the Halloween posse. That year the girl ate pizza in her pig costume and then walked, okay was carried, the streets in our neighbourhood along with her little dressed-up friends.

When she was two the girl dressed up as a mouse and her brother wore the little leopard costume. We ate pizza and then the girl ran ahead with her dad while I carried the boy in a sling on the front of my chest. It was a full house of excited kids and parents that night, but the most memorable part for me was the fact that the boy had an unheard of two hour nap in the bassinet in the middle of the living room. Obvious the key to getting a baby to sleep is throwing a Halloween party!

When the girl was three she wore a Snow White costume handed down from my cousins and her brother was a pig. This night the girl and her friends managed their longest trek yet, hitting up houses on  both sides of the block. The boy was uncertain about what exactly to do, but he soon saw that his sister was getting candy if she went up to the door and so he followed her lead.

This year we will be hosting friends again. Some of the friends have joined us before, some will be new. We will have a potluck, take pictures of all the  kids sitting on the front steps and then wander the dark streets together looking for candy. Because while the candy and the costumes are all fun, the best part of Halloween is hanging with your posse.

What are your plans for Halloween? Will you be hanging with your Halloween posse?

Brie is the mom of a 4 year old daughter “the girl” and 2 old son “the boy”. You can read her blog at Capital Mom.

Trick or treating tips for the slightly less brave

By Vicky As a child I have good memories of trick or treating. I loved dressing up and even made my own costume a couple of times. I remember the streets being full of kids, dragging their packed pillow cases door to door for more candy. When I would get home, I would dump all of my candy on the floor and then sort it into categories: chocolate bars, rockets, kisses, chips, gum, etc. and write down an inventory of everything I got. What a thrill it was to find a whole candy bar or a can of pop among the spoils.

But not all kids love Halloween. For some kids there is no appeal to getting dressed up. For others who are scared easily, Halloween is one big terrifying experience.

When Joel was two years old, he asked for a pirate costume and seemed excited as Halloween approached. But when it arrived, he seemed reluctant. He put on his costume, we took some pictures and then headed out for some trick-or-treating. The first house we went to was the neighbour across the street. Joel eagerly rang the doorbell, and when she came to the door to hand out candy he backed away and started to cry. I coaxed him along to a couple more houses before giving up and heading home.

This is moments before the tears began.

Last year he asked for a police costume. I found an authentic looking one with handcuffs and a walkie-talkie, but on Halloween night he changed his tune and insisted he wanted to be Spiderman. He had some Spiderman pjs so I put them on top of his clothes and off we went.

Knowing what to expect this year, he was excited about trick-or-treating, and happily went along down the street. Until we got to the spooky Halloween house. Most neighborhoods have them, the house that goes over the top with the decorations. Spooky music, smoke machines, scary zombies hanging from trees, this house had it all, including a haunted walk through the backyard and into the garage. We took a few steps toward the gate and then Joel froze. He told me he was scared and didn't want to go any further. Yet Kiernan happily went through and continued to trick-or-treat long after we'd headed home.

Halloween can be scary, but it should be fun! If you have a child that seems nervous or afraid of Halloween, here are some things that might work for them:

-Celebrate Halloween during the day. Join the Kids in the Capital Halloween Party at Boston Pizza! With the lights on, there's less chance of being scared - Go with the flow. If they don't want to wear a costume, don't push it. It's not worth traumatizing them just to get a few pictures. -Talk about what to expect on Halloween night. The scary costumes and masks are just pretend, the zombies in the trees aren't real. It's all just for fun.| -Let your child lead . If there is a house that scares them for whatever reason, skip it. When they've had enough, head home. -Remind them that treats do not need to be enjoyed all at once, and that it's better to make them last to enjoy them longer (this is one we're working on too!)

This year Joel asked to be Woody, and his friend Kiernan is going as Buzz Lightyear. He may or may not chicken out at the last minute. But if he does, I'm ok with that. If anything, there will be less candy in the house to tempt me!

Vicky is the mom to 4 year old son named Joel and 1 year old daughter named Mieka. You can read her blog at blog Some Kind of Wondermom.